tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8656941911046474222.post4182093567066691991..comments2023-10-24T06:28:07.316-07:00Comments on The Needle and the Damage Done: He UsedBar L.http://www.blogger.com/profile/11100008292699584336noreply@blogger.comBlogger38125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8656941911046474222.post-36930426516409547202011-07-08T22:52:47.499-07:002011-07-08T22:52:47.499-07:00Gledwood,
Keven is in a program called "Reco...Gledwood,<br /><br />Keven is in a program called "Recovery Court". He has a felony possession charge but being in this court will eventually erase his felony. The purpose of the court is to give addicts a chance. <br /><br />In the program he has to go to probation twice a week and do a drug test, he has to go to court every other week to report to the judge.<br /><br />If he gets a dirty test he has to spend the night in jail. <br /><br />It may sound harsh, but the judge and his PO are both awesome. The program is more like a big family that has been together for years (two for my son so far).<br /><br />During the two years he has blown it so many times I lost count. He has been given quite a few "last chances". So turning himself in is his only shot at staying in the program.<br /><br />All the rehabs he's been in are different and the one he was in this time has a zero tolerance policy - you use once and you're out.<br /><br />Its actually a positive thing because it helps the majority of people that go through it. <br /><br />I see where you're coming from but right now, his life is not his own, the court has control over everything. I have a feeling they may not give him another "one more chance".Bar L.https://www.blogger.com/profile/11100008292699584336noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8656941911046474222.post-2260973982350807452011-07-08T22:44:52.230-07:002011-07-08T22:44:52.230-07:00Why does he have to go to jail just for using once...Why does he have to go to jail just for using once? That's a bit draconian! After all it's his body he's polluting by taking that crap, so he suffers consequences already...<br /><br />I know someone who's half Dutch (though you'd never know it, he's about as cocknified as can be)... anyway he went to rehab in Holland, ran out the door and smoked 2 rocks of crack.<br /><br />When he came back expecting to be shown the door, they merely asked him why he did it ~ and rehab continued. I think they might consider implementing that approach in my country and your country because something about the way we do things now just isn't working...Gledwoodhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09308172310486574510noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8656941911046474222.post-41923490166359855332011-07-08T19:55:03.352-07:002011-07-08T19:55:03.352-07:00Barbara! How did I miss this?! I am so sorry. I am...Barbara! How did I miss this?! I am so sorry. I am going to read your update. :o(Annettehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18326425173333184401noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8656941911046474222.post-23377699253012946392011-07-08T19:00:23.093-07:002011-07-08T19:00:23.093-07:00Barbara, I am so sorry to read this, but am so gla...Barbara, I am so sorry to read this, but am so glad to see the support you have from everyone. I identify with you so much, with our heroin addict sons. I will be thinking of you... and here's a little story for you, it's true... Tony just told me yesterday...<br /><br />A guy in Tony's NA meeting showed up at the meeting this week without his basic text, upset that he had forgot and left it on the bus. The next day, Tony's girlfriend, K, said that someone had turned in an NA text at her work, in a different part of the city, and she was worried that someone was missing it, so Tony said to bring it home. They looked inside and there was the guy's name written in. So, Tony called him and he came and picked it up, grateful that it was found.<br /><br />So, you see, sometimes things just work out.<br /><br />Hang in there, Barbara.Mommahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16608446475815606649noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8656941911046474222.post-432188515509979762011-07-08T14:53:15.383-07:002011-07-08T14:53:15.383-07:00I am devastated and that is saying a lot about how...I am devastated and that is saying a lot about how I feel about you guys. If this can happen to Kevin it can happen to J! I like to ignore that little "relapse thing". I am so so so sorry. You are handling it much better than I would. I am not sure I would be able to type those words again. The court has given Keven 1st 2nd 3rd and a 4th chance???? Who knows maybe they will just sanction him and give him a 5th chance! I hope he turns him self in. I just new the whole girl friend thing was bad news. Now I am just going to swear and scream hold your ears. *&^%$#^$%#^%$##@^%$^%$$%@#$%@<br />That's all I am going to say on the subject.<br /><br />If you want to AIM give me a time and I will be there for you. My screen name is madyson007.A Mom's Serious Blunderhttp://www.madyson007@wordpress.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8656941911046474222.post-61310503905033033152011-07-08T13:07:16.383-07:002011-07-08T13:07:16.383-07:00Rahime, :)
She is going to be such a doll!!!
I h...Rahime, :)<br /><br />She is going to be such a doll!!!<br /><br />I haven't talked to your sis in a long time but keep up with her on FB. She seems to be having fun in her new job.Bar L.https://www.blogger.com/profile/11100008292699584336noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8656941911046474222.post-39018683177220900812011-07-08T13:05:43.334-07:002011-07-08T13:05:43.334-07:00Helga, thanks. I didn't cry today till I read...Helga, thanks. I didn't cry today till I read your comment. It really touched me and opened the floodgates. But I am at work so I have already re-composed myself.<br /><br />I'm allowed to blog or do whatever I want at work.Bar L.https://www.blogger.com/profile/11100008292699584336noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8656941911046474222.post-42734102783276786852011-07-08T12:59:53.552-07:002011-07-08T12:59:53.552-07:00She's due early Nov.
Slips like this are so...She's due early Nov. <br /><br />Slips like this are so heart-breaking. I'll be hoping & praying for him.Rahimehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03069891606985375509noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8656941911046474222.post-69568418869015046002011-07-08T12:28:20.388-07:002011-07-08T12:28:20.388-07:00My son and his family are here visiting, so I just...My son and his family are here visiting, so I just now read this. It made me sick to my stomach for you and for Keven. I am so sorry, but prayers are coming your way. Love, HelgaBristolvolhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06176684422419228152noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8656941911046474222.post-27204031839500769142011-07-08T11:10:21.047-07:002011-07-08T11:10:21.047-07:00I'm so sorry Barbara.....It's never easy. ...I'm so sorry Barbara.....It's never easy. I hope he turns him self in sooner than later. Will they help him get back into rehab? I don't know anything about drug court - we don't have it here. Even if you do decide to turn your back on him, it won't mean that you will worry about him any less. Take care of yourself!Dawnhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14316923297817758218noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8656941911046474222.post-13610914603138989982011-07-08T11:01:16.646-07:002011-07-08T11:01:16.646-07:00I am so sorry to hear this news. Prayers are being...I am so sorry to hear this news. Prayers are being said for you and for your son. Prayers that you will stay strong and take care of yourself and prayer that your son will make the right choice.Terrihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07043952479034521550noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8656941911046474222.post-41370557082992976512011-07-08T10:27:47.557-07:002011-07-08T10:27:47.557-07:00Anon ---- thanks, whoever you are.
Rahime, thank...Anon ---- thanks, whoever you are.<br /><br /><br />Rahime, thanks. When is the baby due?Bar L.https://www.blogger.com/profile/11100008292699584336noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8656941911046474222.post-39818704531659166632011-07-08T10:26:57.990-07:002011-07-08T10:26:57.990-07:00DDD, Thank you so much. That quote was perfect fo...DDD, Thank you so much. That quote was perfect for me today.Bar L.https://www.blogger.com/profile/11100008292699584336noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8656941911046474222.post-83549021541771372682011-07-08T10:09:50.923-07:002011-07-08T10:09:50.923-07:00Yaya, your comment says a lot. You know exactly h...Yaya, your comment says a lot. You know exactly how this feels and how frightening it is. I want him to be in jail so I can sleep. You know what's funny - I didn't see it coming this time. How ridiculous is that? I saw those red flags but to me they were yellow...in my mind he was doing better than ever and relapse was just not an option (at least not yet). Maybe my subconscious was just saving me some heartache.Bar L.https://www.blogger.com/profile/11100008292699584336noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8656941911046474222.post-40404222479642666462011-07-08T10:01:11.538-07:002011-07-08T10:01:11.538-07:00Lceel, I don't want to know anything sad or ba...Lceel, I don't want to know anything sad or bad. I appreciate you wanting to help. No one can help, but it feels good to have support and encouragement.Bar L.https://www.blogger.com/profile/11100008292699584336noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8656941911046474222.post-13013524751173211882011-07-08T09:59:09.284-07:002011-07-08T09:59:09.284-07:00Mike, I wish we lived closer, you and Robyn would ...Mike, I wish we lived closer, you and Robyn would be great friends to hang with. Thank you both.Bar L.https://www.blogger.com/profile/11100008292699584336noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8656941911046474222.post-29224584643166417092011-07-08T09:58:19.502-07:002011-07-08T09:58:19.502-07:00Lou, Andrew has always reminded me of Keven - but ...Lou, Andrew has always reminded me of Keven - but older :) Some of the things you've shared I think "that's what Keven would do/say/think". I hope that he can come out the other side like Andrew did. I fear prison because you can get dope there, I hope they will let him stay in County.Bar L.https://www.blogger.com/profile/11100008292699584336noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8656941911046474222.post-77143910218818779682011-07-08T09:54:20.428-07:002011-07-08T09:54:20.428-07:00Tori, Its so painful isn't it? We love our c...Tori, Its so painful isn't it? We love our children so much and to sit by and watch them destroy their lives is almost unbearable. I'm thankful I am much stronger today THANKS TO ALL MY BLOG FRIEND'S AND THEIR SUPPORT AND WISDOM, than I was last year or the year before. <br /><br />I'm praying for B...and all of the addicts and all of their families.Bar L.https://www.blogger.com/profile/11100008292699584336noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8656941911046474222.post-2147473446530340292011-07-08T09:52:32.778-07:002011-07-08T09:52:32.778-07:00Erin, great minds think alike, those were the exac...Erin, great minds think alike, those were the exact words I used when he told me. I wish we lived closer too. I heard there is a heatwave up there, hope you don't melt, love you.Bar L.https://www.blogger.com/profile/11100008292699584336noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8656941911046474222.post-86124154535499826552011-07-08T09:51:20.252-07:002011-07-08T09:51:20.252-07:00Iris, thank you sweetheart. I appreciate your car...Iris, thank you sweetheart. I appreciate your care and concern for us, it means a lot.Bar L.https://www.blogger.com/profile/11100008292699584336noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8656941911046474222.post-32607116166022482922011-07-08T09:50:39.149-07:002011-07-08T09:50:39.149-07:00Tina, thanks. Very wise words. I didn't use ...Tina, thanks. Very wise words. I didn't use those exact words with Keven (but think I may steal them to use later), but I have communicated that to him. I hope I have. I will not abandon him as long as he's doing the right thing. I'm waiting to hear if he's turned himself in.Bar L.https://www.blogger.com/profile/11100008292699584336noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8656941911046474222.post-51362119087177781982011-07-08T09:48:33.558-07:002011-07-08T09:48:33.558-07:00Sue Z Q, thanks. I feel your prayers all the way ...Sue Z Q, thanks. I feel your prayers all the way over here on the other side of the world.Bar L.https://www.blogger.com/profile/11100008292699584336noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8656941911046474222.post-63808303835759244912011-07-08T09:47:57.589-07:002011-07-08T09:47:57.589-07:00Syd, thank you. Thanks for still checking in here ...Syd, thank you. Thanks for still checking in here and caring.Bar L.https://www.blogger.com/profile/11100008292699584336noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8656941911046474222.post-71015247388768532672011-07-08T09:43:01.535-07:002011-07-08T09:43:01.535-07:00Oh, I'm so sorry!Oh, I'm so sorry!Rahimehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03069891606985375509noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8656941911046474222.post-50253726358204187662011-07-08T08:08:17.794-07:002011-07-08T08:08:17.794-07:00Prayers are definitely being sent your and Keven&#...Prayers are definitely being sent your and Keven's way. Take care.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com