December 15, 2011

Happy Birthday, Anthony

I never imagined I'd be adopted by one of Keven's friends; and for all the trouble/heartache  he's caused me, I never imagined I'd be so happy to have Anthony in my life.  But I am.

Today he is 24  years old and on a great path of recovery and spiritualtiy.  I'm so proud of him and excited for his future.  Sure, things could crash and burn, but the changes are so evident and so real, I think he's "done" for good.

He has a four year old son that barely knows him and he is determined to be a good father to him starting now, since he messed up for the last 4 years.

(that reminds me, he found out the other day that his father is getting a life sentence, which he deserves, imo)

So happy birthday, dear Anthony.

Peace, Hope and Love, Barbara

11 comments:

LL Cool Joe said...

I always believe that somepeople come into our lives for a reason, and I'm sure Anthony is one of those.

Happy birthday to him!

Terri said...

Happy Birthday Anthony!

Thanks for sharing this Barbara. It makes me wish that Ant and my son could meet. They seem to have something in common.

Thank you for being there for him and not giving up hope!

Syd said...

I am glad for Anthony. Happy birthday to him. I hope all continues to go well. That would be the best present of all.

beachteacher said...

Wow,... This is great. Happy Birthday to Ant. : )

Mary Christine said...

We share a birthday! Happy Birthday to Anthony!

Lou said...

This is a great start, he should be congratulated! Especially for wanting to be a responsible father.

I do want to say, addicts as young as Anthony and who have used as long as Anthony are never "done." The very definition of addiction is a chronically relapsing disease. The most relapse prone period for opiate addicts has been documented to be after one year of sobriety. In order for that not to happen, Anthony will have to be dedicated to whatever program he is working. It is a life long commitment. I feel like I'm raining on the parade, but I've learned "done" is a dangerous concept.

Bar L. said...

Thanks everyone! I realize that Anthony, unlike Keven, doesn't know about this blog and I don't have his permission to write about him. I need to talk to him about it and see what he says.

Lou, You're not a parade-rainer, your a voice of experience. I should never assume someone is done just cause they are doing good! Duh to me :) But what I see is his total commitment to feeling the way he feels right now, he LOVES life, he loves feeling this way. Working the 4th step for the last month has been very eye-opening for him and he knows his number one enemy is anger. Just hearing all this self awareness and passion come out of him gets me a bit over-confident so thanks for the healthy reminder.

Anonymous said...

great point Lou. My thoughts exactly.

Dawn said...

Happy Birthday Anthony - today is the first day of the rest of your life - you are in control of what happens. I'm glad he has you Barbara and I'll bet he feels the same! I wish him well.
Enjoy your weekend!

notmyboy said...

Happy Birthday, Ant! He is SO lucky you never truly gave up on him.

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