I am not longer helping Anthony, or involved in his life (much) but I do love the kid no matter how much I "hate" him. With that said, he's back in jail. He didn't show up on time for a parole appt. so he got arrested. He's in a one man cell because of circumstances I don't feel comfortable writing about (on the outside chance that some bad guy out there runs across my blog...highly unlikely but not worth the risk). SO - he may get out Monday, he may be in for 2 weeks or 2 months. Whatever. I allowed him to call me since I had money left over on my phone from Keven's last time there.
About Keven. I picked him up at the hospital and he was despondent and depressed. I took him back to rehab and they decided he needed the highest level of care for a few days so they put him in their in-patient house for a few days. Then they informed me that due to changes in his insurance policy there would be no residential coverage from now on. He may have to leave CS Tuesday after court.
Our attorney is asking me to do whatever I can to come up with the money to keep him in CS for at least a month to get him stable because she thinks there has been way too much change (all his own doing) in the last two months and another one may push him over the edge. I don't even know how much money we will need, I am assuming around 5K but it could be more.
His Judge is going to be very disappointed. She had initially wanted him to do six months in CS and be done with it, then he would have one more year on probation. BUT we could not afford that so she agreed to 90 days in "extended care" and 90 days in "monitored living". But he had a relapse in ML so had to go to a higher level of care in "outpatient living" and then ended up in the damn hospital so he could get medicated for his anxiety. This is WORSE than a relapse in the eyes of the insurance company, CS and possibly the judge. Shit. Here I was happy that he chose to put himself in a safe place rather than use and it ends up doing more harm to his future.
I don't know what's going to happen. He insists that when all of us were so excited and happy that he was doing so well the first 90 days it was all a big act, he was faking it to get through and convince everyone he was doing great. Sigh. I don't know what to do or believe since like most addicts, he is a MASTER MANIPULATOR, an EXCELLENT ACTOR, and is very smart. He knows how to play the system.
So is he really emotionally fragile or is he a brat that wants his way? I don't think we can come up with the money. He may choose to drop out and go to prison. As much as I hate that thought, it would be a nice vacation for me mentally. But the felony would remain forever...and it hard enough to get a job without one.
Peace, Hope and Love, Barbara