After reading some of the comments to my last post, I realized that yes, Kelly's story could indeed be totally made up. Its just so weird of a coincidence.
IF SO - please help me figure out her motive...
I'm not saying it was made up or not, and perhaps it doesn't matter either way, but I am curious. WHY would she tell me that story if it weren't true? What is the benefit to her? What is the point?
I really want your input on this because I don't see the point of her telling me something so randomly bizarre unless it was either true or there an ulterior motive.
THANKS! I love your brains :)
Peace, Hope and Love, Barbara
7 comments:
I totally agree with Anna on this one as well. I've had the same experience with H and her lies and sometimes unbelievable truths.
Take care of yourself dear girl :)
Peace and prayers
Carolyn
www.parentofanaddictcdcb.wordpress.com
Approval addiction is common in people with substance abuse. They have spent so much time dissapointing the ones who love them they often frabricate stories to get approval which gives them a "high" of sorts. Lies are easy for addicts bento rcause they are second nature. When I first came into recovery I did not know the difference between a lie and the truth.
I agree with Anna. Kelly wants your approval. It might just end there but if she hits you up for something in the near future and you say "no", she might turn on you with anger.
You are so vulnerable these days, Barbara. Just be ready for that - like LisaC said be strong in your heart AND your head.
xx kris
It may be true or it may not. Just keep your expectations low and keep the focus on yourself. If her story is true the that is great. If it isn't then your heart won't be broken.
Please see my comment on the last post. I just got back and had not read this post yet.
I agree with the comments above. I have had this happen with my daughter... often... I think that might be why I was initially suspicious. Guard your heart and let things unfold as they will. Hugs and prayers to you.
as you all know....it really is just so tiring....trying to figure out...is it true...or is it a lie....that's one of the most maddening things about dealing and interacting with an addict. I have a very hard time getting "serenity" at some level due to that lack of certainty...sigh...
and yes, I've had that happen too,..what Anna's saying...my son has told me totally false "good" stories, that were not necessary...obviously to just get some approval :(
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