THANK YOU ALL FOR THE COMMENTS, THEY SUSTAINED ME THROUGHOUT THE DAY AND ARE FULL OF WISDOM, COMPASSION AND EXPERIENCE. THANK YOU!
Talked to a lot of people today: Gina (Kev's PO), three of his friends who called me (the good kind), heard from his therapist, his mentor, Brad, who didn't even know what was going on just happened to call me.
FINALLY heard from the addict himself.
He was very sad, he admitted he needed help, he knows he's not allowed back in our home, he knows he's looking at jail (how long we don't know). He's planning to come home this evening to shower and change and then I will drive him to Brad's house where he will spend the night and then Brad will drive him to court in the morning so he can turn himself in.
I was calm and rational and told him I would never give up on him, but that everything has changed from this point on.
We'll see what happens next.
Peace, Hope and Love, Barbara
4 comments:
I think that it is important for him to turn himself in as soon as possible. And then let him be. He will get better or not whether you are making him the focus of your life or not. It's not up to you.
As Syd said it is not up to you - despite how you feel and how deeply you hurt.
You can help Keven to do what he wants - turn himself in, hopefully. But, you cannot MAKE him do anything.
I am so sorry that both of you are suffering.
Focus on nurturing your needs. Keven knows how much you care; you do not have to keep bending over backwards to prove it.
xx kris
Sorry you are going through such a hard time again. Bz me. G
You are doing exactly what he needs at this point Barbara ...stay tough and loving
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