Like so many of you, I am thrilled that Lou (Subdural Flow) is blogging again! She is kind of a mentor to some of us and I need her wisdom and experience and strength!!!Today she has a great post that lists enabling behavior. I am not sure if I can agree with not giving my son a place to live when he gets out, but I have made it clear that "one strike and you're out".
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I am just so excited for all of your hope and progress! I know you get down and out at times, but wow how you can ignite your fire and find hope again. Give yourself some credit :)
Barbara, your son is only 18. I agree with giving him another chance.
BTW, the Phoenix House website has some excellent articles on addiction on it. I learned some new things. It really does seem like a good program.
I think allowing him to come home will be a mistake. He can live in a halfway house. This is more for his sake. If you aren't enabling him while he is there, the rest of your family may be. Think it over, it has failed before and you want him to have the best chance at staying sober. The other problem is everyone he does drugs with knows where you live. He needs to start over. At least until he is stronger.
Correction: EVERYONE deserves a second chance. I meant letting him live at home as long he is in a program of some sort. Just letting them live with you with no effort to work some sort of program is going to end up right back where you started from.
Can he work a part time job and contribute?
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