As planned Keven went up to 3rd Step House tonight and even though they told him he could live there - the main guy changed his mind and said NO. Keven is not high or anything, the main guy just doesn't trust him. It makes me mad because Keven wants this and if they don't give him a chance how will he prove himself?
I'm staying out of it. He's with Anthony trying to figure something out, like where to stay tonight!
Oh, and the movie was full so we didn't get to see George Clooney today but I had a wonderful time with my friend (we've been friends since high school!)
Peace, Hope and Love,
Barbara
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Deep breath! Tomorrow is another day. Keven is a smart and resourceful young man. You have said so yourself. How else would I know?
I am glad you had fun with your friend today. George will be there another day.
Peace to you my friend.
oh boy....hang on,...one day at a time, as the saying goes. Glad you're letting Keven figure this out, TOUGH as it is, I know. Be proud of yourself for this one. There are certainly other places like 3rd step,...he'll find one.
Ok, but you d understand why they don't trust him, right? Its been less than a week since his last upset. These are the natural consequences of a life being lived in addiction. If you behave in an untrustworthy manner, then people won't trust you when you really need them to and want them to.
God will open another door, but maybe for a day or two or however long, this is something he needs to experience.
Hi,
There was some mention of them saying no a few days ago (a text you got on the way home), which was why I wondered who took the rent money (realization post).
It could be because they said no that he wants it so bad. Maybe they "see" something you don't, with him being your son.
I hate always sounding like the downer here, but I see it from the addicts point.
Either way you are doing right to leave him to sort it out. Stay strong. With love.
What did he end up doing last night?
It kind of makes me sad that Ant has taken on Keven's problems. When my son got clean, many of his "buddies" decided to get clean. My son suddenly became responsible for them, making phone calls to arrange sober living, etc.
Don't get me wrong, I was proud and happy that there would be fewer addicts roaming the streets thanks to my son, but early recovery is a time to focus on self.
Perhaps you could give Ant (permission) to let Keven go...for now.
Barbara,
You are so strong to be able to go through this. I don't know many who could.
Most addicts that I have known have to REALLY hit rock bottom before they clean up. If Keven really wants this he needs to not give up! Having the strenth is really hard I'm sure. I know he can do it. What it looks like to me is you have to find the right support system. That can make the diffrence.
I pray for you both that he finds his way.
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